This post has been on my heart all day. In the last few weeks, I have heard of co-workers breaking blantant rules in pursuit of class numbers. It undermines us all as fitness instructors. To me, it is not, can I get away with it, can I talk my way out. It is, the answer was no, end of story. More shocking to me is alot of this behavior is coming from people who are parents. I don’t know about you, but when I tell my kids no, I mean no. Not, don’t get caught. Not, as long as I am not looking. No means no. If you are not living life with integrety, how will your children learn integrety. As I see this behavior, I remind myself to stay in my lane, to choose the right path. I take my job to help people reach their health and fitness goals very seriously. I am not interested in being “fitness famous”. I want the people who trust me to take a class to be able to play with their grandkids, strengthen their heart, make their brain stronger, enjoy a physically fit life outside the gym. If that goal includes getting into that summer body, that is great too. But it is not about packing my class by bending rules, getting YouTube followers or putting the safety of my class at risk. Making decisions that make me popular but my class unsafe, is just not an option for me. I worked hard to get certified. I do my research all the time on how to make my classes more effective. I am honored for every person that walks into class trusting me. I feel beyond blessed to get to watch the community of love and support that happens in class, not just between the regulars, but how they embrace new people to make them feel comfortable and part of our fitness family.
I am inspired by the integrity of my co-workers that mentor and give the best of themselves every day. I am inspired by class participants that come to to lift each other up to become better. I am beyond grateful that I can choose integrity. That I live a life I am proud of and I never have to worry who is watching. I am watching.
When my daughter left for college and was too far to come home for weekends I embraced care packages. I love decorating the inside of the box and adding a few things to remind her of home. This year, not only is she at school but my son is in the Military and this is the 1st Holiday he is able to receive a care package. When the kids where little I left cut out shamrocks with clues on where to find the next one, leading them on a scavenger hunt to find the “treasure” they left. Always a box of Lucky Charms and a black pot filled with gold wrapped chocolates.
So for this years boxes I wrapped the inside with gold paper, added shamrock stickers and fun, twirly ribbon. They are filled with funny glasses, Kiss Me headbands, green bead necklaces and of course Lucky Charms and gold wrapped chocolates. Even far away I know it will be bring a smile to their face. I still have my youngest at home so I am hoping having a bowl of Lucky Charms with your mom will still be cool this year.
Hello February 2019,
Like many of you, January did not live up to the hype for me and I am ready for the fresh start. To shake off all the expectations of New Year New You, Resolutions, Challenges, yada yada yada.
Here is my January in a nutshell:
- I did not succeed at Dry January. It was more Dryish January. I did drink lots more tea and forgot how much I liked it. I went to bed earlier, read more, found out my favorite sushi joint has awesome green tea when I did not order hot sake. My favorite wine bar I sipped on French Press coffee. I did miss my lazy Sundays cooking, enjoying a glass wine and watching cheesy romantic movies while I meal prepped, so a couple cheat days happened there. Then there was a Military Mom meetup and vodka soda’s while talking about how much we miss our kids was too much to pass up. I fully enjoyed a cocktail while talking to my husband last night watching a movie. I went to bed early most of Jan and bypasssed watching TV to not be tempted to eat or drink, which was good, but I did miss spending time together. So the take-away, trading books and tea during the week for wine and TV will be a keeper. Going to bed earlier was much needed. Enjoying the occasional glass of wine with friends or cocktail with my hubby over good conversation, well that is staying as well.
- Being injured is frustrating and annoying. I set a goal to do a pull-up before my son graduated Bootcamp. I made it to 3 chin-ups and felt good about that. Then my shoulder got injured. I have had to side line the whole thing while it heals, meaning I will lose all the progress I made. Real problem? No. I can still teach my classes. I am healthy, but I am still ……so annoyed.
- 2018 was a big year for my family. My daughter became a mom, which means I became a grandma. My son became a Marine, which brought with it 3 months of no communication. Going from talking t your child once a day to stalking the mailman hoping for a letter was very hard. Then it ended with his graduation ,which was one of the proudest moments of my life. My baby started his Senior Year of High School. I think all the emotions caught up to me and I needed January to just kind of reset. I ate chocolate and ice cream. I was distracted and it was hard to work on new routines for my classes. My son was home on leave and I didn’t want to miss anytime with him. Finally by the last week, I found my groove again.
- I still have a 17 year old at home. He breaks curfew. He is late to school. He talks about all the piercings and tattoos he is getting at 18. But, he is healthy, safe, not on drugs, just embracing the annoying teen thing a little too much, which is why I still need wine and chocolate.
- I started working at 5:30 am 4 days a week instead of 2. Still not a morning person.
- I let my gratitude journal slip which was my favorite habit I established in 2018. I did it every morning. The new work schedule maybe the reason for the change, I only wrote in it a few times at night before bed. This is a routine I want to embrace again. I have noticed the difference with out it and if I set any goals for February, this is it.
So there you have it. Bring on February.
The past few weeks my son has been home on leave for the 1st time as a Marine. I am guilty of several things on this list and today in the market I can add “hiding your tears in the market as you shop for Sunday dinner, because you don’t know when the next one is”. Parenthood is hard. Motherhood is hard. Being a Military Parent stretches and challenges you in ways you can’t imagine until you are there. You are filled with so much pride, yet this child you love more than anything puts themselves through brutal training and challenges to be ready to protect and defend at a moments notice. Our job as parents is raise our children to grow into confident, independent, young adults ready to conquer their dreams. Raising a child who’s dream is to defend an entire country and adopt a new family to fight side by side with, makes you realize you really rocked at your job, and you have a truly amazing kid. So hug your babies while they are home. Smaller or taller than you. Say ” I Love You”, listen to their stories, they are your heart. As they venture out into the world, no matter what path they follow, time is all you want. To hug, to listen, to love.
The 1st weekend of the New Year. For some of you, it may feel as if your new goals are being tested and temptation is everywhere. For some, you may feel you need to say “yes” to every invite and social request. Today, stop and think about what Fierce means to you. It may mean tackling that new HiiT workout, hiking a new trail, trying a new class. It could mean spending time connecting with family or a friend that you don’t see often enough. Maybe all you need is to spend some quiet time meditating, writing in your gratitude journal or just enjoying a quiet cup of coffee. So often when asked how we are, the word “busy” is the answer. If the word “busy” means you are not enjoying your day to day commitments or you are missing out on real connections with the people you treasure, being “fierce” will continue to elude us. As I look at how I am going to elevate my life to fierce this year, I am letting go of the word busy. I will be strong, brave, kind, unstoppable and fierce. In my work, in my relationships and in my quiet life. I am embracing Fierce to reach my goal of getting to the Next Level in all I do. What does Fierce mean to you?
What is Dry January? It is a movement that started in the UK to take the month of January off from drinking. There are several health benefits, including better sleep and blood sugar stabilization. Headaches and anxiety can subside while focus and energy increase. If you go to Happy Hour frequently, then your wallet should get fatter with money saved plus weight loss from not drinking or enjoying those temping appetizers after a few drinks. You may even pick up a new hobby or have time for one that you have been to busy to enjoy. Overall, making one healthy new change can inspire another one. So, it is a great time to use that gym membership. Meet up with friends for a walk or a hike. Maybe just some quiet time to read or meditate.
Not a drinker, here are some other great 30 day challenges to consider:
No Sugar-avoiding all refined or added sugars except for those naturally occurring in fruits and veggies.
Plank Challenge-planking each day and increasing time until can hold a 5 min plank at the end of the challenge.
Daily Meditation or keeping a Gratitude Journal.
If you want to do a full reset, eating plans like The Whole 30, Paleo, or Vegan that focus on whole food nutrition can help you kick-start your goals and transform your health.
No matter what challenge you decide to tackle or lifestyle change you make, it should be fun. Allow you to get to know yourself better. Help you recognize patterns centered around drinking or certain foods. Use the time to try new foods, create new rituals, use the nice glasses, find new joys.
Happy January and Happy New Year.
As we roll into the Holiday season it is easy to get caught up in the perfectionism of the season. Worrying about how Insta worthy our holiday pics are. Letting judgements of our relatives get the better of us. Allowing stress take our joy. Behaving in immature ways we don’t do any other time of year. We let food and drink be our crutch to “survive the holidays” and derail goals we have worked on all year.
Most of us have Mantras we rely on daily or some we pull out just when we need that extra push or moment of patience. This morning I took an online quiz to see what mine was and it was correct, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” I live by this most days but it got me thinking, what if I broke it down further. What if I was the change I wanted in my loved ones lives. That I showed more compassion, more understanding and stepped back before I took a comment personal. That I embraced all the things I wish for my family and friends everyday. Show my daughter that connecting with your family is the most important thing and not getting a perfect picture and missing the moment in the process.
Now this Thanksgiving I do have an advantage. I am traveling to spend time with my daughter her first year as a mother. We are staying with her and her in-laws and space will be limited. I also am unable to prepare the meal I usually would because it won’t make the 7 hour drive. So we have planned a scaled down, simplier meal to prepare. There will be favorites my kids have requested but let’s just say that I am going to accept the shortcuts this year as needed and if something is not from scratch, its okay. I am even going to do paper plates. This is the 1st year my daughter will look at this holiday through the eyes of being a mother. She will be looking to me as the example of how she now brings holidays to life for her family. Instead of nagging her to stay off her phone or question why she is not helping in the kitchen, be the example and set my phone aside. Let her enjoy a little peace as a new mom, let her relax and take notes on recipes she may want to pass down. Soon enough it will be her turn. My being calm, keeping it simple, putting the focus on spending time with each other will help her create peaceful, meaningful holidays for her and my grandbaby. When I was a new mom I stressed about everything being perfect, but as I know now, the holidays with the best memories and stories are not the perfect ones. I have had those Holidays where everything finished at the same time and looked beautiful, but more often, nope not even close. There has been family drama and broken reindeers. Even a fried turkey that never made it into the house and was eaten in the garage. Fortunately, I had a back-up turkey in the oven. Then the holidays we didn’t even get out of our jammies and watched movies and ate all day.
When things start to derail, we need to pull out that favorite mantra and remember why what we are doing is important to us. We need to focus on what we will gain. Anytime in life we focus on all that can go wrong, we miss the moment right in front of us. Sometimes a simple “thank you” repeated over and over is enough to remind us. Maybe with certain family members “I am enough” is the mantra you will need. My other favorite “You can do anything for 10 seconds” might be enough time to stop an eye roll or sarcastic comment. Some of you shared your favorites with me as I posted this was today’s topic. “Do your best with what you have at each moment.” “Own who you are.” “Unapologetically me.” What mantra will you choose?