I am facing a situation where my son is facing a frustrating situation and there literally nothing I can do. All I can do is be postive and trust that his needs will be meet and that this lesson on his path will serve his greater good. This part of being a mom is so hard.
Let’s start off this week positive. When everything around you is chaos, you are still in control of how you respond. We can all do something postive. Deliver a meal, check on a friend or neighbor, teach your child a new life skill, learn a new skill to learn and grow. Meditate, workout, have gratitude that you have a home to shelter you.
Today’s #motivationmonday quote maybe alittle late but I think we all can relate to this in some small (or large) way. Maybe you are going after a new goal or have hit a plateau in a current goal. Maybe there is a goal you have been meaning to start working towards. What if we let go of self-doubt and self-judgement? What if we could express gratitude for the desire to get started and keep going? How much more can we enjoy the journey and see the lessons we are learning along the way if we set down the shadow of self-doubt?
As a fitness instructor, I put myself out there to encourage others to enjoy their workouts, have fun, and help them reach fitness or health goals. When someone shares a story of how their workouts have helped them not just physically but mentally overcome depression, loss, stress, loneliness, the magnitude of how blessed I am to be able to connect with people and be part of their story, is truly humbling. As we all know, anytime you open yourself to the world, there will be people ready to knock you down.
I see it in the gym when friends who started working out together, stop being supporting of one another when their goals or their progress shifts away from each other. The looks of judgement when someone is new and trying to find their footing starting their fitness journey. When cliques develop over certain workouts or classes, not recognizing one shoe does not fit all.
I would like to say as instructors we set a better example, but sadly I know this is not true. We judge each other on class numbers, social media following, if our format is better, how expensive our shoes and workout clothes are. We question if our body is in good enough shape to even be in front of a class, if we are talking enough or too much, if the critics are right.
Standing in front of groups of people, several times a day, eventually criticism will come. On the days it is constructive, I am grateful. I embrace the opportunity to grow as an instructor, to provide better classes and better experiences for my participants. At times, it is not, and I challenge myself to remember the way my light shines is not for everyone. I might be the sun and they need the moon. When I encounter another instructor not creating the kind of positive, supporting, uplifting class I think is important, I remind myself to stay in my lane. If I stay true to me, I will get to my destination and I will have a tribe with me that is excited about sharing the road together and letting each other shine. Each person deserves to find their lane, their light, without our judgment or harsh comments.
When we are on the end of criticism, we have an opportunity to grow, to let our heart become kinder for when we feel we need to offer guidance, to become stronger by standing up for ourselves when needed. The moon can shine in the dark and so can we.
This spoke to my soul today. No matter what you face, you get to choose. I am filled with gratitude for this day. I am going to choose a cup of coffee in peace, a laugh in my classes, a hug from my husband, a smile or text from my kids. Even if my house is messy or I don’t live up to my own expectations. I treasure the opportunity that I have tomorrow.
I captured this picture of my son Andy on our drive home camping in Mt. Lemmon, we pulled off at a Vista Point and he climbed this beautiful rock formation. It made me think of a positivity band I wear, given to me my a friend I really admire, Let Your Light Shine. Despite the fog surrounding us, my son used his strength to see vast view below us from a different perspective. Always be you, Always let your light shine.
Today, it is easy to look at what is missing in our romantic lives. Focus on the love & friendships that you are blessed with. Cherish the people that stand by you. Make today the day you love yourself. The only way to become your best you, is to fill your mind and body with love and positive self talk. Light cancels darkness every time. Be your own light, create the life you want, and share your life with people who bring their own light.